Anonymous said: my dumb sister says voltaire isnt goth because the music is upbeat and jazzy! please explain why this is very wrong because its hard for me to define gothic without talking about cathedrals...

the-lair-of-blair:

graveglamour:

Part of me thinks cathedrals too, so I totally get it.

But onto the question: how/why is Voltaire goth when he’s hilarious and upbeat?
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The most obvious answer is: Goth doesn’t equal moody, depressed, glum, miserable, or despairing. That actually sounds a helluva lot more like Emo. Goth has better eyeliner too.image

Now, I’m not going to give you a definition of Goth because then I’d have to talk about music-roots and aesthetic influences that, although relevant to today’s Goth community, doesn’t successfully encompass most of the community today. We are as diverse a bunch as you will find. If you say you’re Goth, that’s good enough for me, even if I may raise an eyebrow — but then, hell, that’s my raised-eyebrow, and no judgement on you. Power to you. Let’s fist-bump, my Goth-friend, and have a ball.
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But if, after you call yourself a Goth, you then go around trying to make people miserable and try to shame them for being happy and upbeat using “being a real Goth” as an excuse, I can tell you, you are NOT Goth. Similarly if you try to pull some elitist crap by telling people they are “not Goth enough,” you are NOT Goth. And for either scenario, I will personally show your puce-wearing poseur-ass the door. There’s no excuse for intentionally trying to hurt people or being a prick. image

As for what makes a Goth, and perhaps specifically what makes Voltaire a Goth, there are tendencies and affinities that are widely found throughout the Goth community, although I caution you not to use these as defining guidelines (ie, you must fit 70% of these or you aren’t Goth) and merely accept them as frequent characteristics I have observed in people I know in the Goth community.
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- Goths like black. That’s not to say that’s all we wear. That’s not to say that’s our favourite colour. That’s not to say that we can’t own things of different colours. But we do like our black all the same. It’s classic, it’s cool, it’s romantic, it’s badass. Black is everything. We dye our hair black, paint our nails black, and revel in the blackness of our souls.image

- Goths tend to be dramatic. There’s a bit of actor/actress in us all. Even if we’re not on a stage, singing bawdy, creepy, morbid songs, walking down the aisle in a grocery store can be stage enough. Goths love their corsets, top hats, petticoats, waistcoats, spikes, buckles, and other delightfully spooky clothing and accessories. image

- Goths tend to know that the world sucks. This doesn’t mean that we can’t be optimists, but we still are well aware that the world is an awful place, that people use others, cheat others, and betray others, and that, perhaps a bit comfortingly in view of this, we are all going to die.image

- Many Goths have had shit childhoods, traumatic experiences, and have seen some pretty horrible things (Voltaire makes no secret of how much he was bullied at school and about his horrible home-life) and I think this makes Goths more likely to strive to be the best versions of themselves that they can be, more likely to laugh and try to make others laugh, to view things like a joke, because if we don’t laugh, we’ll weep, and we may as well try to improve the world around us however we can.
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- Many Goths have intense creative streaks that manifest in every way possible. Goths use their experiences (especially the traumatic ones) as a way to fuel their inspiration, and at the same time, as a method of expression, self-healing, and emotional-release. image

We’re not all morbid, or on medication for psychiatric concerns, or misanthropic loners. We’re actually a lot of fun, if only because the world is the joke. It’s no different with Voltaire.

I love you

I love you too. ;D

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graveglamour:

I finished this one a bit ago, but no opportunity to photograph and upload!

For those of you who love Phantom of the Opera (and especially the ALW musical) as much as I, I would like to present a non-replica Star Princess tiara done Valt-style!!!

While the Hannibal tiara had a lot of pieces and the replica Star Princess tiara had a lot of construction issues, this one was done in a more traditional style (traditional to how I make them) and so it wasn’t all that difficult. It just had some extra ornamental pieces. So, if anyone wants one of their own, you know where to come! I might even consider selling this one. (Although I love it… bur I can’t keep them ALL. Make me sell it.)

You can talk to me here in my Ask Box, at GraveGlamour on Etsy, or you can email me at valtinen@gmail.com!

Also, don’t forget to follow since I will be hosting a giveaway for one of my crowns (and other fun items) once I hit 500 followers!

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Anonymous said: anon has seen your answer! thank you my friend. i think i get it now. Goth is an attitude and an aesthetic, not necessarily a personality type or a music genre. thanks!

Rock on, my friend!!!

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Anonymous said: my dumb sister says voltaire isnt goth because the music is upbeat and jazzy! please explain why this is very wrong because its hard for me to define gothic without talking about cathedrals...

graveglamour:

Part of me thinks cathedrals too, so I totally get it.

But onto the question: how/why is Voltaire goth when he’s hilarious and upbeat?
image

The most obvious answer is: Goth doesn’t equal moody, depressed, glum, miserable, or despairing. That actually sounds a helluva lot more like Emo. Goth has better eyeliner too.image

Now, I’m not going to give you a definition of Goth because then I’d have to talk about music-roots and aesthetic influences that, although relevant to today’s Goth community, doesn’t successfully encompass most of the community today. We are as diverse a bunch as you will find. If you say you’re Goth, that’s good enough for me, even if I may raise an eyebrow — but then, hell, that’s my raised-eyebrow, and no judgement on you. Power to you. Let’s fist-bump, my Goth-friend, and have a ball.
image

But if, after you call yourself a Goth, you then go around trying to make people miserable and try to shame them for being happy and upbeat using “being a real Goth” as an excuse, I can tell you, you are NOT Goth. Similarly if you try to pull some elitist crap by telling people they are “not Goth enough,” you are NOT Goth. And for either scenario, I will personally show your puce-wearing poseur-ass the door. There’s no excuse for intentionally trying to hurt people or being a prick. image

As for what makes a Goth, and perhaps specifically what makes Voltaire a Goth, there are tendencies and affinities that are widely found throughout the Goth community, although I caution you not to use these as defining guidelines (ie, you must fit 70% of these or you aren’t Goth) and merely accept them as frequent characteristics I have observed in people I know in the Goth community.
image

- Goths like black. That’s not to say that’s all we wear. That’s not to say that’s our favourite colour. That’s not to say that we can’t own things of different colours. But we do like our black all the same. It’s classic, it’s cool, it’s romantic, it’s badass. Black is everything. We dye our hair black, paint our nails black, and revel in the blackness of our souls.image

- Goths tend to be dramatic. There’s a bit of actor/actress in us all. Even if we’re not on a stage, singing bawdy, creepy, morbid songs, walking down the aisle in a grocery store can be stage enough. Goths love their corsets, top hats, petticoats, waistcoats, spikes, buckles, and other delightfully spooky clothing and accessories. image

- Goths tend to know that the world sucks. This doesn’t mean that we can’t be optimists, but we still are well aware that the world is an awful place, that people use others, cheat others, and betray others, and that, perhaps a bit comfortingly in view of this, we are all going to die.image

- Many Goths have had shit childhoods, traumatic experiences, and have seen some pretty horrible things (Voltaire makes no secret of how much he was bullied at school and about his horrible home-life) and I think this makes Goths more likely to strive to be the best versions of themselves that they can be, more likely to laugh and try to make others laugh, to view things like a joke, because if we don’t laugh, we’ll weep, and we may as well try to improve the world around us however we can.
image

- Many Goths have intense creative streaks that manifest in every way possible. Goths use their experiences (especially the traumatic ones) as a way to fuel their inspiration, and at the same time, as a method of expression, self-healing, and emotional-release. image

We’re not all morbid, or on medication for psychiatric concerns, or misanthropic loners. We’re actually a lot of fun, if only because the world is the joke. It’s no different with Voltaire.

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graveglamour:

Meet the blogger

Rules: Just insert your answers to the questions below.

Tagged by the excellent panarophile

NameURL: graveglamour

In life: Valtinen

Nickname: Valt or V

Birthday: 17 October

Gender: male

Sexuality:  Panromantic heterosexual

Height: 5’5”

Time Zone: Eastern Standard Time

What time and date is it there: 27 August 2014, 9:16AM

Average hours of sleep I get each night: 4

The last thing I Googled was: Brookgreen Gardens

My most used phrase(s): Bella miseria!

First word that comes to mind: Scrumptious

What I last said to a family member: “No, the humans aren’t extinct. They’re just on a spaceship, my darling.”

One place that makes me happy & why: Brookgreen Gardens! I just spent two whole days there and it made me extremely happy.

How many blankets I sleep under: One during the summer, anyone’s guess how many during the winter

Favorite beverage(s): Sweet tea, y’all

The last movie I watched in the cinema: Jersey Boys

Three things I can’t live without: MY CAT (OMGs, that was tested last week and I’m a psycho without her), internet access, books I can hold

Something I plan on learning: I am learning French right now!

You have to listen to this song: Echo Chamber by The Ark

A piece of advice for all my followers: If you want to wear it, wear it. If it makes you feel good, wear it. Don’t worry about what other people think because if they’re that miserable with their own lives that they have to judge you, then they’ll find something to judge no matter what. May as well be happy.

Also tagged by the wonderful gothicmarmite and goblinkinginthetardis today — so reblogging for them.

Gothicmarmite’s version also asked:

Other blog(s): I do have another blog that only a few people know about. And I’d like to keep it that way.

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The departmental head of my grad program is emailing me random music. I love him to death, but I’m so confused. And his only explanation, “ha!”

nightwatch-official:

geekygothgirl:

gorgonetta:

[Painting of Death as a spectral nanny taking a child and infant away from their bereaved family.  A detail shows the family’s house number is 1918.]

I never realized this until seeing the detail, but this painting is most likely about the flu pandemic.

it’s really interesting seeing death portrayed as a woman 

(Source: ex0skeletal)

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